There are some threads you need to read-up while you are there. However, I would like to point you to this particular thread called  “The Di Carlo Escalation Ladder“.

The reason why I ask you to read that secifically because it is by far, the most exhaustively written post on something that most guys “think” they know, but they don’t.

A beautifully explained account of what exactly must be done to escalate the attraction levels to uncontrollable levels for each of the women you interact with.

Head over there and read it all up.

• Practice online, deliver offline: You thought you couldn’t turn yourself into the witty, hot-mouthed, alpha male? No problem. All you got to do is find some women online and start doing all that you have to do. Say all the things you find it hard to say otherwise. The best part is that it is all digital and it wouldn’t matter if you screwed up. You couldn’t get the tonality right? Could deliver those sentences right? You turned into a wuss bag mid-way? Who’s next on the list?
• Just another channel, Charlie: Just like businesses have various ways to collect leads and attract customers, don’t you think you should have channels for more women like these businesses do? Why not use the Internet as another channel through which you get to close on hot looking women?
• Online is easier: Think about it: there is no 3-second rule or 7-second rule. You can hesitate for as long as you want – even put it off for days. You can retreat if you screw up and just shoot emails to as many women as you like. There can’t be anything that can possibly go wrong with the online dating circuit and even if it did – who cares? You have a big contact list. Double-click on the next name.

1. Men choose stupid women to be with: One of the most stupid things men do is to choose crappy, useless, trash-brained women to be with in the first place. Women folk, don’t take offence; but not everyone is worth being with. Some of them can drain you off your energy with their incessant chatter, seething jealously and egomaniacal statements while some can be made of stone. Pick up women with care my friend, or be happy being stupid.
2. The horrible me-too tendency — Sucking up to women to curry favor: You like chocolate? Me too. “You like this movie? Me too. What are you? A spine-less, brain-less goo-goo? You got to be opinionated. You should show that you have a spine. If you have a tendency to say yes to almost anything she says just so that you can be in her good books, remember that she thinks almost the opposite way.
3. Be a doormat, thinking that it’s fair in the name of love: And then there are some others who allow themselves to be a doormat, for lack of anything better to do. Some women are aggressive by nature and might tend to dominate. If you see a woman like that, you either tame her or walk out. But you don’t become a doormat, for heaven’s sake. I knew some people like this and I asked them why they do this – they said they loved their women so much that they couldn’t think of claiming their sanity. Rubbish. Pure crap. I thought they lost it completely.
4. Warped sense of time investment in relationships: Men tend to go to extremes, while Mr. Balance is held somewhere like a prisoner of war (POW): They either worry too much about responsibilities, work, career, etc and don’t spend time with their women at all or they spend too much time with their women – so much that women have to gasp for breath when possible. They would have to surface every now and then like a whale. Go find Mr. Balance and let him sort things out for you.

You will rot in hell

If you don’t be yourself and try to be someone else, you are guaranteed to lead a life that will take you nowhere. You will land straight in front of hell’s oil-washed, heated-up doors. This isn’t life and no one is that damned important for you to change yourself in a way to curry their favor. Be who you are and let them decide if they should be with you.

She Likes Me for Me Because You like her for what she is

You didn’t ask her to change; you didn’t throw tantrums and you certainly didn’t write out a list of “100 things to do and change before I date you”. Why the hell is she doing it? If she is, politely ask her not to. Tell her that this is how you are and will be. You like as she is, don’t you? Well, the thing with relationships is that everything is mutual. If she is making demands, it isn’t being mutual; it is being mutinous.

Isn’t it commonsense?

It’s funny that we are even dedicating an entire article to something that should have been obvious. Isn’t it common sense to seek freedom in trying to be who you are and not change for others? I am not asking you to be rigid, stone-faced, grumpy grandpa and absolutely not make any compromises in your relationship. But change too much for her, no way.

Break-up advice#1

Start a part-time Business: This is one of the best things you can do in the event of a break-up. Think about it: not only is it fun to start your own part time business, but it will also enable you to earn money, grab valuable experience and keep you busier than the busiest bee. Would there be time to think about your break-up? No way, amigo!
Break-up advice#2

Travel around the world: What more can you ask for than a chance to go see the entire world? Of course, I am assuming that you can break the glass walls of your corporate cubicles or any other chains you locked yourself with and break-free. Go country hopping with a vigor and see how much you can see and experience. You will also be able to meet new people and take your dating experience to an international level. If nothing, you will be a changed man.

Break-up advice#3

Volunteer in a developing country: Some folks out there suggest you do some volunteering, but they don’t tell you where and what. I suggest you head to a developing country like India, Sri-Lanka, anywhere in the Sub-Saharan Africa and volunteer to help little children or anything else that pulls at your heart strings. You will be valuable to the society, possibly earn some money to keep you afloat and of course, enable you to meet locals.

Break-up advice#4

Learn a new language to become a translation specialist: They say that a lot of your nerve cells activate when you try to pick up a new language. Why not try to learn a language but not idly. Staring with the basics, rise above the normal language learning crowd and try to become a specialist. You have amazing career avenues and opportunities open for you — you could go to a country where that language is spoken and get yourself a new job, do translation online and much more.
Break-up advice#5

Get back to your friends: Suffering break-up blues? Do you feel like screaming and throwing things out? Can’t get her out of your head? You will need to relax and hit the gym, the pub or the local bowling alley with your friends. Being with friends, you will get plenty of support and help. You will be able to put your past behind you easily and you might just find your next girl-friend with their help.

What do women want?

Well women want you to be:

Unpredictable: There is nothing on earth that can shatter attraction levels as much as a man being predictable. It is an absolute no-no and yet men get into this I-can-bet-this-is-what-he-is-going-to-do act. Do you call her everyday? Does she expect your calls? Do you message her immediately after she messages you? Do you do the same damn thing everyday? Saying the same things over and over again? Hit the panic button, my friend. If you want to be a player, this is the first layer of dirt you have to shed.

Confident: No hesitation; no dilly-dallying and no ifs and buts. If you want it, you go get it. If she is worthy enough, you can even have a dogged determination to get to her at any cost (I’ll let you decide that). Alternatively, if she isn’t worth it, you move on. You must exude confidence at everything you do – walk, talk, hand-shakes, eye-contact and the way you carry yourself. In my seduction blueprint, I talk about the 7-second rule and various other ways you can appear and be confident.

Successful, charismatic and suave: No beach bums, street squatters and penniless vagabonds will be entertained. Sure, a few women might; but I am not talking about them here. If you are a man, you will need to be able to provide. No excuses. You just have to go out and do something about your life. You must either have money or fame or both. It’s you against the world, dude.

Decisive: They won’t you to ask them where you should be taking them out on a date. They don’t want you to think when the moment is just right to kiss them. When you are out there with women, it ought to be improvisation at its best. ‘I know just we should be going for dinner, in case you have other ideas?”. “I missed you and I wanted to see you, so I drove all the way from Minnesota”. You got it, didn’t you?

]]> http://arou.se.com/give-what-women-want-how-to-be-a-player/feed/ 0 http://arou.se.com/how-to-know-if-she-likes-you-%e2%80%93-secret-body-language-cues-you-should-know/ http://arou.se.com/how-to-know-if-she-likes-you-%e2%80%93-secret-body-language-cues-you-should-know/#comments Thu, 11 Jun 2009 10:31:06 +0000 rodash http://arou.se.com/?p=60 Many of us are lost on the subtleties of the female psyche. We have no clue about what goes on in her mind and that’s good in a way, because it keeps us on our toes. As a man, it is only natural to have an inquisitiveness to know if she likes you or not. Here are some giveaways for you to know if she likes you are on:

1. She maintains eye-contact: One of the most common giveaways is the eye-contact. If she maintains eye contact with you for more than 60-70% of the time, she is in. It might not be clear whether it is likability or pure confidence, but at least she isn’t repelled by your presence there. She isn’t showing any tendencies to run away or get away from there ASAP.
2. She flips her hair: One of the ways a woman shows sexual interest in a man is to flip her hair time and again. Now, it is easy to mistake their flipping her to tuck hair locks behind their ears as an obvious sign of interest – it isn’t. They are just doing that to tuck hair in behind their ears (how clever am I?). This flipping is different: their hair is alright, there isn’t much wind, the irritating lock of hair near their ears is tucked in already and they still touch their hair, twirl it, toss it, tie or untie it for no damned reason. There, she likes you.
3. She touches herself or you: Going kino or touching is a great way to ascertain her comfort levels with you. If she touches you repeatedly while speaking animatedly, she digs you. She crosses her arms, puts up a “screw you” face; you will need a different seat. I explain how you should go kino on women, how to touch them but not make them feel resentful in our free report called seduction blueprint, which you must download now.
4. Her legs – her feet actually – are pointed towards you: While standing or sitting across you, if you find her feet or legs pointed towards you, she likes you. She isn’t like that because she thinks she is Sharon stone. Guess what, she doesn’t even know she is doing half of the things we just spoke about; she just does it. Incredible, but true: body language never lies.

Asking Questions

It’s an art to ask questions; it’s foolishness to assume. It’s also not recommended that you probe. To probe is to interrogate, so don’t do that. You don’t want to have your woman run away from you by asking her all sorts of personal questions. The route you should be taking is the “not-so-personal”, situational questions to marginal personal ones ( the kind of questions she wouldn’t mind answering after a little small talk). But the best part about asking questions is the fact that you ask her questions and she talks. If she talks, you can achieve the following:

· You listen. Good listeners have an undeniable sex appeal, apart from the fact that rapport increases and women get increasingly comfortable with men who listen.

· You will know a lot about her, while she wouldn’t know much about you. That lends a mysterious aura around you. You will invoke questions later, leading to more meaningful conversations later.

· You can watch her, make eye contact with her, notice subtleties in her behavior and observe her body language all the while she is talking with you – that puts you leagues ahead of her in the relationship game.

Women Seek Men, Not Pesky Complaining Children

Never complain, crib or cry in her presence, ever; no matter what happens. You will not crib about your life in general or anything at all in particular. No complains about life, career, brothers and sisters. No cribbing about how sad your job is or how unbearable the losses in your business have been. No crying at all. This isn’t to suggest that men don’t cry, but it is only to state that you shouldn’t cry in her presence. No way.

Women Love Men Who Have a Way with Words

Have you ever noticed how a woman swoons and almost faints when given a dose of cleverly worded euphemisms? Did you know that there are suckers for greeting card type messages, compliments and flowery talk? Did you know that you could give a woman a double orgasm just by talking and saying things the right way? Words, my friend, are powerful for a lot more reasons than just for the U.S Declaration of Independence and speeches. Learn to use words to your advantage; twist them, turn them and bring words to her years. She should crave to listen to more of you; she should kill to be able to hear the sound of your voice.

]]> http://arou.se.com/how-to-talk-to-women-unveiling-secrets-to-small-talk/feed/ 0 http://arou.se.com/how-to-get-laid-a-primer-for-men-to-take-women-to-bed/ http://arou.se.com/how-to-get-laid-a-primer-for-men-to-take-women-to-bed/#comments Mon, 08 Jun 2009 05:44:49 +0000 rodash http://arou.se.com/?p=30 To get laid is bliss. No one is denying that. But to get there and to be able to get laid consistently, you got to blow some logic out of the window. To take women to bed isn’t easy, but it isn’t difficult either. Here are things you must follow religiously to have all the women you ever wanted:

1. Approach Women with the Intent to walk away: One of the most important things to keep in mind is to ensure that you have an attitude of walking away from any one. Let’s say you approach a hot looking woman at a friend’s party, you must keep in mind that no matter how gorgeous she looks and no matter how much she sets your heart afire, you should be willing to let go; to walk from it all if there are signs that she is a little nutty and doesn’t appreciate being accosted. Ever seen some of the most powerful negotiators? They don’t come to make deals and get into important negotiations without the intent of walking away from it all.
2. Get Into That Frame of Mind: The sound and pace of your voice, the way you move your body, the way you say certain things, they way you walk and move about and also the way you look at her is all going to factor into the unconscious engines that can fire up her attraction level for you. But to get into this state of super pick-up artist and finally to get laid, you must make this a part of your personality. You can do that only when you live and breathe this way. Each passing day must be a practice session for you. As you continue to do this each day, this will get into your head. You will begin to live in this frame of mind that can ultimately contribute and help you to get laid.
3. Ambition, Attitude and the works: One of the biggest secrets to help you get laid with as many women as you like is to have the right attitude. Clichéd it certainly is, but there is a reason why it is used again and again. You will be amazed to note that having adequate amount of ambition to do something in life –something certainly more ambitious that just sex and pillow talk – attracts women. Being busy, working towards something big, having a life of your own and not looking to her for any kind of support can entice.

Don’t walk out and expect to get laid without any of these above mentioned points. It might not be an exhaustive list, but it makes tremendous amount of difference to your life and help you get laid.

Sorry about my meandering. So, how frequently should you be calling each one of your ladies?

You should be calling them at least once a week with each of them. That would mean just once per week with each of them. If you meet any one of them in a week, don’t call.

If you have no intentions of meeting them but just want to talk on the phone. Call once a week and let it go. They will call you after a few days.

Most of my fellow experts like David De Angelo, Mystery and Neil Strauss — who also wrote a book called The Game and The Annihilation Method — would certainly back me up here when I say that you should never be calling the girl the same day when you get the number for the first time. Thumb rule is to stick to a 3 day waiting period before you place the call. Make it 2 if you can’t bear it absolutely and anything sooner, you will bite the dust.

I loved it when Zack Tylor of  Datingthoughts rightly pointed out that it is indeed an awesome, incredible, nervous and a “here we go” moment. Although I don’t agree with him on the fact that you should “tell” her when to call since that brings in a sort of predictability, I do second his opinion that you shouldn’t harass her, call her often, not introduce yourself when you do call and finally, keep it short and to the point.You may want to check out his Pursuit Theory: The First Phone Call.

If you are a full fledged relationship and if you think you met the girl of your dreams, you may relax a bit and call up everyone once in a while. But still there are rules:

• Never be predictable; so don’t develop any regular patterns of calling her.
• Never talk for too long on the phone — I don’t care how sweet, cute or mesmerizing her voice is. Remember what David says “Be the first one to hang up”.
• When you fail to carry the conversation any longer, cut it off there and hang up. Don’t linger and don’t you ever say “What else? How is Life?

It is painful; it isn’t easy when you first get started and it isn’t funny when you feel like calling but your schedule doesn’t permit you to do it. The last time I remember, there was nothing worth achieving which wasn’t painful to a degree or the other. Easy stuff is for kids and sissies. You are a man, so this is what you get.

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