David De Angelo, of Double Your Dating fame, likes to say “Attraction isn’t a choice” and he is so damn right. When you approach women, it isn’t about what you do for a living, how much money you got, what you wear and all of that other sissy stuff relationship advice columns would have suggested which is that important. It is all about your attitude. I don’t care if that sounds clichéd. It’s true, it works and so we’ll stick by it.

Look up any of the mainstream magazines  and top dating blogs for help on sex, dating and relationship advice and what you get is at best advice for sissies. You deserve more. If you haven’t had a knock on your head before, you are about to get one.

Men have a lot of ground to cover — a lot of things to do before they get around to mastery in dating, picking up women and taking them to bed. It isn’t easy; it isn’t difficult either. All it takes is the following:

1.Be comfortable with yourself: A slight dip in your voice while talking; hesitation before you make you approach; a tinge of nervousness before suggesting you go out together, even that stupid movement of your Adam’s apple while asking or casual chatting are signs of nervousness — things you would have lived better without. Confidence is 75% success with women. Go out there, just be yourself and while you are still looking for the best girls, practice on almost anyone you like.

2. Never be predictable: Why not make life a little more fun? Why let people think “I know him”? Never let anyone predict accurately what you are up to, what you are going to do next and never ever do something the way you do all the time. Life won’t be exciting then, would it? Predictability to dating, sex and relationships is like inflation is to your wealth and equity portfolio — greatest enemies to success.
3. Remember that it’s a number’s game: It isn’t going to be just one girl you tried to flirt with and you are never going to be done with a couple of hits and misses. You got to keep doing this; it’s a form of daily exercise. Find a girl, hit on her and let the natural selection process kick in. Meanwhile, go find another one. Voila! Soon, you will have a portfolio of women to keep yourself busy with. By the way, according to Bonny Albo, who is a prominent guide at about.com, this is a new law of attraction: go ahead and find your women while they remain seated.